Attitude, tone of voice, the ability to empathize with those around us, the ability to control our anger and aggressiveness, tact, diplomacy are aspects that mark the types of relationships we have with others. Interpersonal relationships refer to all the relationships we have with those nearby, i.e. family and friends, professional relationships, relationships with bosses or subordinates, customers, relations from social environments we interact with: people you know from church, at a party, at the library, the theater, the barber, club etc. How we interact with others takes its toll on relationships we have with those around us. Violence breeds violence. An uncontrolled anger could trigger a war. On the contrary, people who are calm and balanced will know how to build around them relationships of the same type. Along with aging, entourage in which we live is one we choose, except the family.
Considering these aspects, interpersonal relationships are:
• smooth (characterized by feelings of friendship, love, trust, respect, understanding)
• tensioned (characterized by feelings of anger, fear, jealousy, envy, avenge, hatred)
Obviously, each individual can have relationships that fit all the three types of relationships, but one of these types will prevail. People who offer love, friendship, trust, respect, understanding to those around them will create harmonious relationships based on those feelings. On the contrary, people who can not control their aggressiveness, who let themselves be led by hatred, jealousy, envy or hatred will create similar relationships.
We can see thus how important it is to know what are the types of relationships we have with others, how can we improve them, how we can overcome negative feelings of anger, hatred or revenge, to replace them with love, friendship, trust and so on. We can learn thus how to rebuild our relationships, how to get back together with others, how to forgive, or how to listen to those around us.
“The life’s supreme happiness is belief that we are loved; loved for what we are, or, rather said, in spite of what we are.” (Victor Hugo)
There’s still a large number of people who choose to get married today, even the great number of those who will divorced, many times, just a few years later.
And maybe is time to asking why?
Which are the real reasons for people still choose the marriage in the detriment of another types of cohabitations? Here ar just a few reasons for choosing marriage:
1. Belief that the true love can exist just within a legitimate relationship;
2. Fear that without making this big step your relation is more vulnerable and you can lose your partner any time;
3. Some financial or material interests;
4. Because of familial, social and cultural pattern which say to us that only married people enjoys the society respect and assessment; so, our fear that we can lose them;
5. Belief that the relation with your partner will be “for entire life” one;
6. Because the engagement and wedding are still romantics and is great to say to your friends: “this is my wife”, or “this is my husband”.
In spite of all this reasons to get married, many people get divorced just a few years later. And the price for that is a big one: to many children growing up with just one of their parents, with limited resources, to much children assisting to the fight between their parents.
Divorce is not a phenom which we can meet just in underprivileged social background, but in all social categories, no matters if the parents are doctors, businessman or simple workman.
So what we can do?